I have a lot to complain about. At any given time I could list off so many things in my life that aren’t quite how I would like for them to be. Some days are harder than others to stay positive, but I’ve learned that oftentimes just a little change in my perspective on things can make a bad day
better a good one!
Below, in italics, are some things that would be really easy for me to complain about right now in bold I’m writing how I choose to look at it and find joy in the things that bother me.
I’m so tired of going up 2 flights of stairs to get to my home! vs. I’m thankful to have a nice place to live where I don’t have to fear for the safety of my family
I wish we had a bigger home with a room for the baby (she’s in the living room right now) vs. I’m thankful that baby sleeps so deeply that it (usually) doesn’t wake her when she’s sleeping in the living room and we are all still awake and talking.
The laundry is never ending! I can never be “done” with it vs. The laundry never ends, just like my love for the people in my home who dirty all the clothes! (cheesy, but it really helps for me to think about it that way!)
I never get any time alone/to myself! vs. I’m never lonely because the ones I love most are always around me.
Hubby forgot to put his dirty clothes in the hamper! vs. So thankful my hubby works hard & gets so dirty to provide for us.
I hate nursing! I wish I didn’t have to! vs. I’m so glad I’m able to nurse my babies so that we don’t have to break our budget to buy formula.
I miss my hubby, I wish he was home more vs. I’m so thankful that God provided my hubby a job with good hours so that we’re financially stable enough for me to stay home with the kids while he works.
Little Man is SO loud! vs. I’m thankful my son is a confident little boy that’s not afraid of having fun.
This way of thinking works and helps me A LOT. But, there are some things that don’t have a positive side. There is not always a silver lining . Sometimes you just have to trust in God, looking to His grace and faithfulness even when you don’t understand. For me, there is no visible “up side” of my dad’s death when I was 14. I’ve yet to find a silver lining in the years of abuse I endured as a teen. But that’s okay. God is stronger than my bad days. He’s given me strength and healing through out the many hard times in my life, just a few of which are listed as examples here.
God gives peace and joy when those things don’t make sense. MOST things have a positive side if you stop and look. And for the things that don’t, God’s faithfulness shines brighter than any dark cloud of hurt that we could ever experience.
What about you? How could a changed perspective make the difference between a good day and a bad day for you?