I’m a mom, a wife, a business owner, friend… the list goes on and on. But of all of the important thing that I do on a daily basis, every item on my to do list every meeting I attend or even speak at, the most important of all, is LEGOs.
You see, my five year old is very excited about LEGOs right now. We talk about LEGOs during the day, we talk about them while we eat dinner, in fact most days I’m woken up by my son holding his latest LEGO invention 2 inches from my face and explaining it in great detail.
I cook dinner with them and they travel with us in the car. There’s nothing I do that doesn’t involved LEGOs.
For me personally, I’m not a fan of the toy. I never really got into building with the sets as a kid, I could really just take them or leave them, as an adult I feel the same way.
But my son is nothing if not passionate about creating this with his LEGOs. They are the most important thing in his little world right now, therefore they are the most important thing in mine.
Every time he comes running with a new robot or car he’s built I find it in me to be amazed, to listen to the lengthy dissertation about how it works and why it works that way. Because this is the most important thing to him and he is the most important thing to me.
It’s funny how with another adult we’d all affirm that some one doesn’t really care about you if they don’t take the time to care about the things you are interested in, yet when it comes to our kids we blow things off because after all LEGOs aren’t really important. He’d have my undivided attention if we were talking about the meaning of life, or bullying or something like that. But LEGOs? What could be important about that? Except that he is. He is what’s important about that.
Showing him that I care about the things he cares about. Today it’s LEGOs but in 10 years it could be things like drugs or how far to take it with a girl or even what he wants to do with his life. He could be dealing with emotional issues and not sure where to turn. I want him to always know that it’s to me. That I’ve always been excited about what he’s excited about and sad about what he’s sad about.
That every word he’s said was important to me, even if only because it was important to him.
I want him to know that I take what he cares about seriously. These little things today will be such big things tomorrow and I want him to let me be there for the big things. I want him to grow up knowing he’s loved through every insignificant passion and each huge decision he has to make.
If that means listening to LEGO discussions all day, then so be it. If that means waking up to LEGOs in my face, I’ll take it. As long as he knows his thoughts, passions and he himself are important to me, I’ll endure the LEGOs one more time, after all, they are the most important thing in my life right now.
Linda says
Wise mom! Everyone wants to be heard. Those are some of the most interesting conversations I had. Now, I have the, with my grandkids. My boys love Legos. They are 30 and 34. They get them out when they come home sometimes and take over the dining room table. They still get them for Christmas. Enjoy your guy!