So often, as moms we make jokes about what a poor job we must be doing raising our kids.
Whether it’s the sarcastic laments that the “mother of the year award” must be passing us by after we’ve just messed something up or the memes about “just trying to keep the kids alive”, we’re pretty quick to make a joke at our own expense.
I make those jokes too, and I laugh at them, but I would like to go on record saying I think I’m a good mom, and I bet, if you were honest with yourself, you’d think the same about your own parenting skills.
Yes, we’re imperfect. I mean, you all know that my children frequently eat things like this, that I RARELY clean my kid’s room, that I totally compare my kids to other kids their age and I grin (with relief) when I see other misbehaving toddlers in public.
I am far from being the perfect mom. But, really, I’m far from being a terrible mother too.
That’s the whole point of this series, to remind all of us that we don’t have to be perfect to be awesome mamas to our kids. That we can make mistakes, and do things different than “the norm” and still be fantastic parents to our own children.
So don’t be afraid to admit it. You are a good mom. Say it loud, say it proud. As loudly as you would say “I guess the mother of the year award is passing by my house this year” or “I must be the worst mother ever because…”
Be honest with yourself. Remember your good days, not just your mistakes. Rememeber the time you made cookies with your kids or spun in circles until you almost threw up. And if it’s been awhile since you’ve had some silly fun with your kids, don’t feel guilty about it, just schedule something fun for this afternoon. Even if it’s just an impromptu dance party in the living room. Make the smile, laugh with them, that’s all that it takes.
Most importantly remember…
You are an awesome mom.
Admit it to yourself and don’t be afraid to believe it.
You are rocking this. And I’m almost positive you deserve more credit than what you have been giving yourself.
Don’t be afraid to be a good mom. Because you already are. Just accept it.
I know there are a lot of good moms reading this right now, so I’m going to ask you to be brave, and leave a comment admitting it. No disclaimers, not self-deprecating jokes, just tell me you are a good mom to your kids, how old your lucky little ones are, and something fun you’ve done recently together.
It doesn’t have to be amazing or pinterest worthy. The most precious memories are oftentimes the simplest.
Just take a moment to remind yourself, and then share it with the world. You totally deserve that.