As moms, we are frequently encouraged to “just enjoy it” or “love every minute” of our days. While I can appreciate the sentiment, (I know they years pass by too fast) I still find the application to be somewhat impossible. Which is why I have stopped trying to enjoy every minute of motherhood.
There are certain aspects of motherhood that I do not enjoy. No matter how hard I’ve tried, I still hate breastfeeding. I will never love changing diapers and, although I’ve learned to understand and tolerate tantrums, I will never enjoy enduring them.
Motherhood is hard. And with it come all sorts of challenges, not all of which can be enjoyed.
Attempting to love every moment leaves me feeling guilty and inadequate, because I just can’t do it.
So I’ve abandoned that endeavor. I no longer try to enjoy every last second of motherhood.
And I’ve started doing something else instead. Because, even though I can’t enjoy every minute, I know that I can find much more joy in my days than I am currently experiencing. I can be a much more joyful mama to my littles, and I can definitely enjoy my days more, even if I can’t enjoy every minute.
I’ve learned to find joy in every day. To search for something beautiful throughout the day, something lovely in my children (even when they are throwing tantrums all day), and to take a moment to thank God for it.
Maybe it’s a simple thing like my son’s smile after a long day of seeing his tears.
Or the peace that settles on our home as every one falls asleep.
Or the moments (be they ever so brief) when I catch my kids playing nicely together.
There is something beautiful in every day, we need only to find it, take a breath and enjoy it.
What beauty have you seen in your life today? What beautiful moments have you had with your children? Share in the comments!
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