I recently read a question on Strengthening Marriage’s Facebook page, and it really got me thinking. The question was “What do you wish you would have known before you got married?”
I wrote a reply to her post but it had me thinking so much I wanted to write something longer and post it here as well!
I tried really hard to think about what I wish I would have known. I think another way of phrasing that question could be, “what do you wish you could change about your marriage?”. I thought about this for a bit before I replied, and I honestly couldn’t think of anything I would want to change, or anything I would like to have “warned” myself about.
My hubby and I got married super young (18), we were ignorant about a lot, new to life and new to love. We’ve had to face a lot of things together, and “grow up” in many respects together. We have learned and grown together, and it has been HARD. There have been lots of tears shed and lots of long discussions before bed (because we won’t go to bed upset!). But, I wouldn’t trade any of it! Not one of our hard times, not one bad day. I wouldn’t switch them out for wisdom learned earlier on, or just an easier time. Our growing together and learning together has strengthened us, and shaped “us” into the couple we are today. I trust my hubby so deeply because I can look back at all the ridiculously hard things we’ve already been through together, and I know that we’ll make it thru whatever we may be facing today. I can brush off many small things, because I know his heart, and he knows mine – words misspoken, or said out of tiredness/ stress are rolling off easier now, because our trust has deepened with time, our love has grown with time…and with hardship. We’ve grown stronger as we have endured life together, and I love it this way.
We’ve learned a lot along the way, and we both still have a lot to learn. I take comfort knowing that we have our whole lives to learn together. Marriage is such a beautiful, wonderful, difficult thing.
I love my hubby <3
I realize that it might not be this way for every one though, maybe there are some things you wish you would have known. Do you have any? Is there something you would change? Is there something you would tell your “younger you” to help them through some hard times?
I know that if I would have known how hard marriage would be I would have RUN the other direction. And that’s a huge reason I’m glad I didn’t know! I would have missed out on the beauty of it, and missed out on my wonderful man!!! :)