It doesn’t matter if it’s your first baby or your fifth, it’s always a huge transition and is best done with your village of friends and family gathered tight around you to help with everything.
While each experience bringing a new baby into a family might be different, there are a few things friends can do for a new mom after she’s had her baby that should always help.
Always ask before you come over
Some new moms are desperate for friends to come over and just sit with them while they make this new transition into “mama”. Others, prefer to be left alone and have time to figure things out on their own. Take the time to figure out what your friend wants, and don’t assume it’s the same thing that you preferred when you had kids. Send a text or call before swinging by and make sure she knows you won’t be offended if she asks you to leave earlier than planned or not do much more than just drop by quickly in those first few weeks.
Offer to let her nap
If she does welcome visitors, try to make sure she sneaks in a nap while you monitor the baby. If she does, try to clean her kitchen or bathroom to help her house seem more like home in the middle of this huge life transition.
Let her be mama bear
This is especially important when your friend is a first time mom. She may have rules about her baby or her home that you think are strict or a little bit unnecessary. Just go with it. She doesn’t need your advice on how you think she could do things differently right now. Let her come into her own and experience motherhood on her own terms.
Take her older kids for the day
If your friend already has kids, offer to take the older kids somewhere for the day. This can help the older kids get out of the house and work out some energy for the day instead of being stuck home with the new baby and tired mama. It also gives mom some extra time to bond with the baby without worrying about the many needs of her other kids.
Whip up a meal and bring it by for her family. This can be a huge help and one less thing on her plate. While bringing by dinners is a fairly common way to help, be sure you cover all the meals. Bring by a box of Special K Nourish cereal to start her mornings right and most especially snacks. I was amazed at how hungry I was for weeks after I had both kids. Special K Protein bites are a great choice to bring to a new mom.
They are packed with 9g of protein and they taste amazing! The resealable packages make it easy for mom to get a few when she’s hungry and seal it back up for later. She can even do it one-handed while feeding the baby!
Tell her she’s doing awesome
Lastly, and most importantly be sure you tell your mom friend she’s doing an amazing job. Even if she’s still in her pajamas and has spit-up all down her shirt… tell her she’s beautiful and awesome, because she is!
How do you show support to your new mom friends? Share with us in the comments so we can find more creative ways to love on our friends and their new babies!