All too often I find myself becoming annoyed with my blessings. These beautiful little children that God has entrusted to me, these precious lives that I’m honored to have intertwined with mine.
They are such a gift and yet I get irritated. I get tired of it. Yes, I enjoy them still and love them without measure but sometimes I find myself wishing my blessings were a little more calm or a bit less loud.
Instead of enjoying them for the chaotic little kiddos they are, I want to change them into mini versions of myself, into something more convenient for me.
Yes, my kids are loud, they are crazy and can most definitely be a bit obnoxious at times. They are toddlers, that’s how life works at their age. They won’t always be this kind of crazy. My life won’t always be chaotic and hectic seemingly ruled by the whims and moods of these tiny kiddos. It is right now and that can be tiring. Some nights I fall into bed completely weary with mental and physical exhaustion (but I’m starting to think that’s just a part of motherhood).
Despite all of this, there’s not excuse for me to get irritated with my blessings. They are beautiful gifts from God. They are wonderful kiddos and I’m doing my best to keep that perspective when the days are long (and the nights are longer). These babies, this family of mine is a huge gift from the Lord. They are mine and far more than I deserve. And so, I keep reminding myself; these blessings are precious, not an annoyance. These moments are to be cherished not merely endured.
I am a blessed mama. Even when I’m also an exhausted one.
Do you ever find yourself getting annoyed with your blessings? How do you work past it?
Gabrielle says
Yes, absolutely, and I do the same thing that you’re doing now. I focus on the fact that they are blessings, that they’re little people who will keep on sinning, much in the way that I keep on sinning. And sometimes it’s not sin, it’s simple childishness or being creative. I’m exhausted too, but it will pass and we’ll want to have these little babies again.
Grace @ Craftadon.com says
Yes… And I’m even crazier because I’m marrying into the craziness.
K and I remind each other that these are the times we’ll look back on and love someday. That we were like this too, and our parents had to figure out how to deal. That every time we want to be negative we can choose to be positive.
We have to remind ourselves to be unconditionally patient and loving! We try. Doesn’t always work ;-)
Jesica says
I would just like to say that I’m only 16 and I could never begin to imagine how hard it is to be a mom, but it sounds perfectly normal to me. I had to babysit my silly 5 and 6 year old nephews for 3 days and I wanted to sleep for 10 years haha… I have NO IDEA how you can do this ALL THE TIME. I think God built moms for this type of work.
Ava Sophie says
You are well on your way to maturity when you realize that fact as a 16 year old! And then, when the day comes that you want a family of your own, you’ll stand a little bit stronger: because not only do you know what you’re getting into, you also have great respect for moms that will really come in handy;) That type of respect is really valuable, so hang on to it;)
Kassi @ Truly Lovely says
Great point about wanting to make mini versions of yourself, versus loving the little people they actually are!!!
Caren says
I hear you, Mine are teens and just when I think the fussing was all over :( wine, wine . I just have to laugh (either laugh or scream) I choose laughter . So keep smiling or laugh out loud and have them join in.
Pamela says
Your children are blessed, too. Such a sweet post.
Joyfully,
Pamela
Kari says
Absolutely I do! I think it’s shows us we’re still human! I stop and remind myself often that this does not last forever. I have an 8 year old (who is very much a whinner and complainer!!) a 6 year old (with severe ADHD and I suspect SPD), a very active 3 year old and an 8 month old (who is still exclusively breastfed and currently teething). It gets hard sometimes because the house is a mess often, I’m tired, etc but I stop and remember that soon they will be gone and the house will be all too quite. Children are blessings that are in our hands for such a little while. Thanks for the beautiful reminder! Stopping by from Raising Homemakers.
Chris Carter says
I get annoyed with my blessings EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. :) It is so hard to stay calm and focus on all those precious beautiful gifts God hands us in the chaos of the day. When I start to really lose it, I have to stop and pray and refocus. Every mom has those moments, don’t they? Lovely post!! SO nice to meet you! (visiting from PYHO)
Ava Sophie says
I know all too well what you’re talking about, I i feel that I am not really entitled to do so, ’cause I’ve only got one ;) But I like the perspective you show here, and I loved this sentence: “I am a blessed mama. Even when I’m also an exhausted one.” That really an important reminder! :-)
Ally Ferguson says
Beautiful post. So transparent…which I absolutely love about you! I think we all need to remind ourselves of this in many areas of life, and I can only imagine how many times in motherhood. :)
Shell says
Honestly, I really wouldn’t believe someone who said they never got annoyed with their kids. ;)
Linda B says
Sometimes but I just love them because they are their own person. They have different personalities. I don’t get annoyed with them all the time, it’s just the way they are. Sometimes if they push my limits, i scream STOP! and they stop! Visiting from SITSgirls!
Christa the BabbyMama says
I just remind myself they won’t be little forever!
Rabia @ TheLiebers says
I get annoyed with mine, too. Pretty sure all moms do; just some of them don’t share it with others. When I feel myself starting to get overwhelmed, I try to switch gears. That probably involves TV for them and getting some chores done for me. Or maybe a nap for everyone. :) Visiting from SITS. Hope you have a great day!
Dana says
My blessings annoy me sometimes, but now that they are older my perspective has changed. They will only be home with me for so many years, so I tend to get less annoyed and just hug them a little tighter. Visiting from SITS – have a great weekend!
Jamie H @ coffeewithus3.blogspot says
Stopping by from Fellowship Friday.
I find myself annoyed with my blessings often, too. I think that it happens more when we’ve been stuck inside, when I haven’t given them enough quality time, and of course, when one of us is getting sick! But then, moments after I feel so annoyed, I see or hear them do something so wonderful- like catching the two of them (3 and almost 2) giving each other a hug, or hearing the older one helping her brother when no one has prompted it, and hearing him say, “Thanks you, Sissy.” In those moments, all the annoyance melts away, and I’m reminded of how richly God has blessed me by entrusting these little ones into my care!
Life with Kaishon says
I know just what you mean : ). Children can be the most exhausting things. They sure are wonderful though, aren’t they?
Stephanie @ Lifes Little Adventures says
I feel the same way. Most moms do. I would like invite you to link this post up to my fatigue and frustration Friday Link up.
momstheword says
Oh I do remember those days! Yes, they would annoy me and it doesn’t mean you don’t love them! It just means you wish you could have just a few minutes of peace and quiet so you could finish a thought, lol!
Mine are young adults now and I love my memories of their childhood, but I still get annoyed when I’m tripping over someone’s shoes, lol!
But I know my time with them is short as the oldest is engaged to be married and my youngest is in college. I am just so thankful to God for them!
Sarah says
well said! Love this!
susan says
Tough when you are exhausted!!! It’s all in God’s strength. Sometimes, when my patience has been obliterated, I send them to bed to early with plenty of books to read. I’d rather than get some extra sleep than I spend all evening yelling at them.