Balance. Every life is filled with so many tasks, and the need to find balance. Whatever stage you are in, I know you must feel it too. Being pulled at from every direction, never knowing how you are going to manage getting everything done in one, short 24 hour period.
Balance is something I strive for every day. A good balance between all the many hats that I wear. Some I never take off, I plan to wear the “mommy” hat and “wife” hat until the day I die. They are by far the most important tasks I’ve been given, yet sometimes they are left by the side forgotten, while I try on those that seem more glittery and exciting in the moment.
Life can be overwhelming. All the things that must be done for even just one of the roles I play in my own little theatre. Meals must be cooked, clothes must be folded, games must be played, ouchies must be kissed, meaningful conversation must be had, support must be given and words must be written.
Given the chance, I wouldn’t stop any of these roles. I would never trade any of them away, but sometimes I get tired. There are times when I feel like I never want to write another word, and would rather just curl up with a good book to read for hours. But then, in some moments the allure of writing more books and building a bigger platform for that goal seems to outshine the menial tasks of snack preparation or hide-and-go-seek with my kids.
But all it takes is a moment. One simple smile from my daughter or a giggle from my son, and I remember. I remember what is most important. And although my love and passion is for writing. The passion I have for my career is nothing, nothing in comparison with the passion and love that I have for my family.
Balance is difficult because sometimes it means doing the mundane. Sometimes it means doing something you hate for some one that you love. It’s not glamorous or even celebrated most of the time, but it is good.
When I find myself being stressed and worried at the end of the day, I know that something is out of balance. Somewhere along the way, I’ve lost myself in my duties, and forgotten my way.
Because even though I wear the author hat and the WAHM/Professional blogger hats. I don’t have to. And I don’t want to if they mean requiring sacrifices of my family. This is why I need balance. Because when I’m intentional about my time, and using it wisely, I’m able to chase all my dreams. Those of being a mother, wife and writer.
It’s a daily struggle, to keep proper focus. To keep balance. God, and family first. Always. Writing will remain on the side, a passion, a love, a career, but never in place above family or above God.
Candace Cameron Bure recently wrote a book entitled Balancing It All (affiliate link). I’m hoping to get the book in the next week or so, because, it’s such an important topic, and one she has a lot of experience with too! She currently has a contest/promo going for her book where I am submitting a photo from this post. I thought it was a fun idea, and it inspired this post!
How do you find balance in your days? Would love to hear your tips!