If you get multiple young moms together, chances are the conversation will turn to birth stories at some point. Each story is unique, just as each mother and child are unique and special in their own way. I love hearing birth stories and sharing my own, but there is one particular conversation I’ll never forget. It stands out in my mind because of the way the woman sharing honestly shared her feelings.
We were all gathered and telling our stories, there were a few that had completely unassisted births, those planning future home births, there were some moms that had c-sections and then this mom, who, when asked to share her story, quietly said “I cheated, I got the epidural”.
Cheating birth? Is that even possible? I do not believe that it is. But I know that many mothers are told that they somehow “cheated” because they didn’t do things the way they had planned, or the way other moms told them they should.
So what about you?
Maybe you were induced (I was with my first)
Maybe you got the epidural
or the meds in your IV (I did that too)
Maybe you elected to have a C-section
or had an emergency Cesarian (like two of my friends)
Maybe you went completely drug free (I did with #2)
Maybe you had a water birth
Or a home birth
Maybe your dr wasn’t even there in time to deliver your baby (this happened to me too)
Whatever your story. Whichever way your precious one entered the world. It’s awesome, and you are awesome. There is no “cheating”, that’s not possible. You birthed a baby, an entire human being. It’s a wonderful (painful) gift we’ve been given as women to birth children. Regardless of the method you choose, or the method that is chosen for you, it’s awe inspiring.
It’s your story. Share it with pride. Don’t let another mama convince you that you did it wrong. You brought a baby into the world and that is nothing short of incredible.