I am so excited to introduce you to Allie from the purposeful housewife. I enjoy reading Allie’s blog and have been encouraged by her candid honesty and today’s post is no exception! She shares her personal struggle, but I think all moms have probably struggled with something similar! I hope you are encouraged by her words today! –Paula
Confession: I’d rather be cleaning.
I am a get-it-done type of person. I make lists, I cross things off of them, and I like feeling accomplished at the end of each day. Of course, I have my days in which I struggle with motivation and battle laziness, but overall I make things happen. As a stay-at-home mom of three, my task lists consist of wiping, dusting, scrubbing, folding, cleaning, organizing, planning, cooking, driving and preparing. At the end of a long day, I find myself tucking my bathed kids into their beds, and collapsing on the couch with my husband.
Notice anything missing from this seemingly perfect, mundane day in my life? This question leads to me to my mommy confession. I don’t spend quality time with my children. Oh sure, I’m at home with them. I don’t work, I am in the house with them. I am talking to them, caring for their physical needs, kissing their boo-boo’s, and making their meals. What I am failing to do is connect with them, feed their souls. The thing is, this is hard for me! I love having a perfectly clean home. I love feeling like things are in order and taken care of. I would rather clean than sit and play, because it usually leads to me feeling unaccomplished at the end of the day. This is a heart issue that needs to be healed.
These are my babies! God Himself chose me with purpose to be their mother. He knew I would be the very best at raising them. I am to bring them up in the way of His holy Word. Yet here I am, more concerned about having clean counters and swept floors! Yes, keeping a clean home and dressers full of clean clothes is important, a responsibility of mine as a housewife. However, the problem exists when I place these chores higher on the priority list than nurturing my family.
So, when it comes down to doing one or the other- cleaning or sitting down to play Legos with my son- the right choice needs to be made. I must balance my life and duties.
Remember, when your children are grown, they are not going to have precious memories about playing by themselves on a squeaky-clean floor. They are going to either resent you for shooing them off to keep busy, or adore you for sitting on the messy floor connecting with them. The choice is yours to make every day. Choose wisely and with joy, friends!
Allie is a young wife married to her childhood friend and high school sweetheart. They are raising three littles together- Bella, 3, Leland, 1, and Hudson, 5 months. When she is not reading, writing, cleaning, baking treats or reading stories to her wee ones, she can probably be found playing with her cat, Ichabod or jogging in the park. She loves Jesus with her whole heart and has a desire to inspire. You can read about her and follow along with her life at her blog, where she writes (with raw honesty) as The Purposeful Housewife.