I’m tired of logging on to my computer and seeing 10,000 different people saying 10,000 different things about how I MUST raise my child. I’m tired of mommys bullying other mommys or making new moms feel pressured to do things their way. I’m tired of Moms making other mamas feel insecure. I’m sick of the snarky little comments and “clever” pictures that are jabs at other people’s parenting methods hidden sneakily under the guise of humor.
I’m read for us all to just encourage each other, and stop tearing each other down through our blog theories about what is “best” for every child ever.
I’m tired of people campaigning for their brand of parenting. I’m tired of being bombarded with information about how I should raise my child everytime I open facebook or read a blog. I really enjoy reading information about different parenting methods. I just get upset when people start saying that anything and everything other than what they are doing is sub par. It’s irritating (at best) and can get really discouraging (At worst).
I find it amazing that most of the “issues” people argue over and fight for, really don’t matter in the long run.
I don’t think children sit around at age 12 saying “oooh my mom breastfed me for 11 months and yours didn’t make it past day 1, my mom must love me waaaaaay more that yours loves you.”
9 year olds aren’t going to remember if their parents co-slept with them when they were babies or if they were in a crib in their own room their entire infancy.
15 year olds aren’t going to look back on all the meals they ate as a toddler and decipher the extent of their mother’s love for them from that.
Kids aren’t going to remember if you bought them all the latest toys.
Kids won’t really know if you allowed them to watch television as a toddler or avoided it like the black plague.
They won’t know or care if you cloth diapered them, or if you used disposables.
They WILL know if you were patient and kind. They will remember if you loved on them and cared for them, took time to talk to them, look them in the eye and show them that they matter in a way that they could understand. They will remember the days when you were happy and carefree chasing them around the house in their PJs or spinning in circles with them until you get sick. They will remember that you laughed (or didn’t). they will remember that you hugged (or didn’t) they will remember that you had time for them (or were too busy).
Those are the things that are remembered. Those are the things that MATTER.
Whatever decisions you make as a mama, make the decisions that are right for you and your family. Even if they are looked at as “less than” by other mamas. My hubby always reminds me that I can never please every one, there will ALWAYS be other people telling me that the decisions I have made are the wrong ones. But the truth is they are my decisions to make. Hubby and I talk together about how we are raising our children, and we’ve made the best decisions for our family.
But we don’t think they are necessarily the best decisions for your family. Make the decisions that pull you are your family closer. That emphasize what is important to you and your family… and that communicate the most love to your kids.
Know that your values may change as you grow in your motherhood. I’ve chosen to do some things that I didn’t think I would, but my choices allow me to be less stressed, so I can be a happier, kinder mommy, that’s why I have chosen them. Some things that were super important to you the first year of your child’s life, may slip to the background in years to come, and that’s okay. As long as loving your child, teaching them about God and showing them how much you care stays at the front, you are doing good mama! You are not doing it wrong. YOU are the person God selected to be the mother of your child, and you are an incredible mama.
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