My son is 18 months old and EXTREMELY vocal. We’ve been working with him for months, encouraging him to “use his words” instead of fussing, he’s doing great with that, but I’m still amazed at the number of words he can use. I can’t keep track, but I would say he knows and regularly uses over 80 words at this point. He’s consistently saying “thank you” and there are a couple other little 2-word phrases he uses.
With all those words, he does not say “I love you.” He has said it one time, about a month ago, but that was it. Has not said it again since. This boy is told dozens of times every day that he’s loved. I tell him all the time. When my hubby comes home he tells him too! He’s around his grandparents a lot and they are always saying how much they love him. He probably hears those 3 words said to him more than any others (except maybe “no no”). But doesn’t mimic it.
After thinking about it, my guess is he doesn’t say it because it has no meaning for him. He uses words related to what he’s doing and seeing. But ‘love’ is not a word that he has felt he needed to say yet. He is shown love, and he shows his own love for us, but he doesn’t talk about it.
I’m all for saying “I love you” but it has been interesting to note that even though my son doesn’t use those words he still feels loved and shows his love extremely effectively.
He shows love in many ways, he gives hugs, his face lights up when some one he loves walks in the room. He snuggles, he loves to share his food and toys with people, he tells me I’m “pretty pretty” when I dress up and says “thank you” when some one gives him something.
He receives love by being snuggled, played with and cared for. He is a really happy and loving kid but those three words “I love you” have so far been useless to him.
All of this got me thinking about my marriage… Do I tell my hubby I love him, more than I show him that I do. Even if I didn’t say those three words, would he know that I love him still and feel just as loved/cared for by me? I think that mostly the answer is yes… but I’m endeavoring over the next week to be more intentional about SHOWING my love for people. Especially my hubby. I’m not going to stop telling him I love him, (I think saying it is really important too!) but by the end of each day I want to have SHOWN him that I love him in so many ways that saying it will just be “icing on the cake” ;) (and every body loves cake!)
I don’t think it will ever cease to amaze me how much I learn from my little son. He’s so small, and so naïve, but he teaches me so much!
Question for you: What ways do you show your hubby/family that you love them without using those 3 words? Let’s get creative together!!!
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