Did you see the story floating around about the stranger who paid for a mom’s meal because she was breastfeeding in the restaurant? At first glance, it seems like this is awesome. Finally, some one not being harassed for nursing in public. Instead, she’s supported for feeding her baby.
I am always, always for supporting moms.
The thing that has me scratching my head here is – why is this such a big deal?
I nursed both of my children. I made it to a year with one and nine months with the other. But I don’t need applause for breastfeeding. I’m not looking for anyone to recognize me for feeding my kid. I’m a mom. That’s what we do.
Be it through bottles or breasts, we feed our kids. I can’t help but think that if the same mom had been sitting in a corner feeding her little one with a bottle, she wouldn’t have gotten a free meal that day.
And let’s be real, there are challenges and sacrifices that are made regardless of how you feed your kiddo.
There is much to be said about the normalizing of breastfeeding. I for sure want women to feel empowered to be able to do it if they so choose, but it’s not a contest. You aren’t more of a mom for breastfeeding or a lesser one for taking the bottle route.
In fact, a mom who chooses formula could probably use a free meal more than a breastfeeding mom since breastmilk is free and formula is crazy amounts of expensive.
I just don’t get it. All these lines in the sand. All these “thank yous” for doing something ordinary, in an attempt to make it seem more normal.
I can’t see how “nurse-ins” (the cute term for nursing protests) are making this regular thing of feeding your child seem anything less than weird.
Yes, let’s support and encourage moms. Sure, nursing moms made need some encouragement not to quit. But I don’t like the way it can discount the challenges that come with formula feeding. Like formula moms aren’t allowed to have a hard time or don’t deserve to be recognized for the sacrifices they are making for their babies as well.
What do you think? Is breastfeeding normal enough? Do you think that mom deserved a free meal for nursing in public, or was she just doing a regular thing? Share in the comments!