Something frustrating happened the other day. but it lead to something pretty neat. Hubby had forgotten to do something that is just a huge pet peeve of mine. I got in the truck with just enough time to get where I was going right on time, and what do you know – the tank is on empty! The little light is flashing at me telling me I need to get gas immediately, if not sooner. Sigh. I know I’m going to be late because of this and I am immediately miffed. THEN I call him to see if he thinks I can make it to my destination without stopping for gas (since I don’t know how long the light has been on) and he does not answer. Not answering when I call is pet peeve #2. Oh man, at this point I’m pretty mad. and just getting madder. I drive up to the gas station, the closest one but the one that is also out of the way. I am fuming by the time I get the gas, make a U-turn and get back on my way. Looking at the clock I know there is no way I will be on time, and I hate being late. And he didn’t answer my call. and grrrr just getting madder and madder.
Then it hits me. Is my love and feelings of affection for hubby really based on these little conveniences? Is it really THAT big of a deal that the truck was on E? um, nope, not really. Is it really that big of a deal that he didn’t answer when I called (turns out his phone didn’t even register the call for some reason, but I didn’t know that at the time)? No, not really. Is my love for him based on these things so much that I would get SO ANGRY when these “essentials” aren’t met. I hope not.
Then I started thinking about all the wonderful things, the things I really do love about him. Because when it comes down to it, if some one asks me why I love my hubby, it has nothing to do with the fact that he does or does not answer when I call (even though he normally does). Has nothing to do with weather or not the gas tank is full.
It has to do with what godly man he is. It has to do with how selfless he is. It has to do with how much he cares about me, how he is the first person that I can completely trust, how he takes care of me even when its hard, how he has stuck around smiling even with how hard our lives have been over the past couple years. It has to do with the smile he puts on my face just because he is who he is. It has to do with what an amazing daddy he is, and how he works so hard at work, and then comes home and helps me where he can. It has to do with how patient he is with me and with our son.
And really when it comes down to it, I just love him because he is who he is. Not because of the things he does or does not remember to do. Love is not based on any of that.
It was a huge eye-opener to me. I get mad over dumb stuff a lot and it was really neat to step back and remember what an amazing man I have and how much I love him and why. When I did that, it was impossible to be mad over an empty gas tank.
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busymomof10 says
Excellent post! This is where the rubber meets the road! Thanks for sharing! And Thanks So Much for linking up with my Marriage Monday post! I hope you’ll come back next Monday and link up again! Also, would you mind adding either my blog button or a link to my blog at the bottom of your post, so your readers can find me? THANKS!
blessings,
Elizabeth