Alex and I often talk about the songs and sayings that our culture offers about love that are so unhealthy. Some of them sound very sweet and poetic and lovely, but when it comes down to it are impossible, unrealistic and majorly over the top.
For most of these songs I can still sing along and enjoy it, giving them a sort of poetic license to exaggerate. All love and romance songs are not ruined for me just because I don’t agree with a line or two. I often tell myself they are being poetic, and they don’t really mean what they are saying etc, just so I can enjoy the song. That being said, I do think some of these songs are hurtful to young girls who may be taking them to heart.
One that has always rubbed me the wrong way is Taylor Swift’s song “Ours”. The line that gets to me is in the chorus. She says that:
“life makes love look hard”…
Seeming to imply, that love is not hard. That love is easy and just comes naturally all our lives.
I have to disagree! Love is hard. Commitment is hard. It’s a challenge to put another person’s feelings above your own. It is hard to take another person into consideration every time you make a decision. It can be difficult to stay commited when the storms of life hit. It would be simple to run away from every problem, but that is not what love does. Attraction is easy, lust is easy, but love? Love is much harder, much deeper, and much more beautiful.
Maybe if we didn’t assume love was easy, there would be a lot less divorce. People wouldn’t go into marriage expecting it to be simple all the time. Maybe if we didn’t think love was easy we wouldn’t claim we had “fallen out of love” when things got hard, and instead we would fight to keep love alive, and continue loving.
As much as I enjoy Taylor Swift and her music (my husband is a HUGE fan of hers) I have to disagree on this one.
A quick look at the “love chapter” of the Bible 1 Corinthians 13, and we will see just how hard love is!
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.”
That’s a pretty difficult list. Patience, kindness, lack of irritability. yikes. I’m a failure every day at a lot of these. But love also endures all things – Love will endure when your spouse fails, it will endure when things life is hard. It will endure when it is HARD to continue loving. By God’s grace it endures.
To me, saying that love is not hard cheapens it.
I know that love is hard, but I also know that it is beautiful and wonderful.
Love is hard, and in many ways, that is the beauty of it. If it were easy, it wouldn’t be love.
What about you? Are there love songs that rub you the wrong way? Do you think love is easy or hard?