I have not been writing much lately. For a lot of reasons, but I have decided to get back at it now. I miss blogging, and writing. I was just in a stage of life for awhile that I did not want to share what was going on in my life with the world. And there was often too much going on for me to have a spare moment to write even if I did want to share. But now things have calmed down, and I am back to one of my favorite things…writing!
I have been really endeavoring to be a better wife lately. Last month I gave myself 4 things to try to implement, and I realized a few days ago that I was actually succeeding in all four! this really got me excited and I decided to give myself “challenges” like that more often.
A lot has changed in our lives in the past few weeks and months. I had been working 29 hours a week, and then coming home trying to keep the house in order, while giving my song the one on one attention he deserves, and get enough rest to keep me going. All of this just seemed next to impossible and I was constantly stressed out. Our home was always a mess which I felt guilty about, but after working a nine hour shift, coming home and lavishing attention on my son, preparing and cooking dinner, I really just did not feel energized or motivated to vacuum or scrub floors. A few weeks ago I quit my job. It was a big change for us, and we were not sure how things were going to work out financially, but it had to be done. Well, things did work out, my hubby is now getting more hours at his job, and also picked up a few extremely flexible hours at another business. So financially we are okay (thank God!). We are glad that financially things are good (actually better than they were when I had my job). But the real change came in our marriage/family life. Everything is so different with me staying home. Our son is happier because he does no have to share me with the other children at work. I am less stressed out because I don’t feel run to the bone trying to keep up with work, being a mommy, cleaning house, washing clothes and diapers, oh, and being a (good?) wife. When I was working, and trying to keep up with everything else, our marriage definitely took a backseat to all of my other responsibilities. I don’t think that I was being a particularly bad wife, but I was not working on our marriage. I was not reading marriage books or blogs and figuring out ways I can be a better, more encouraging, more supportive wife and show my man how much I love him every day. Our marriage was just “there”. It was surviving, but not thriving. Now that I am a stay at home wife and mom, I am freed up to be able to focus on our marriage and on being a better wife. I am so excited that I am able to. I think as long as we are living, this will be a focus for me. I will never be the “perfect” wife, but I can always be improving and becoming a better wife than I was before. This is my hope and my heart on marriage. I am young, and I don’t know much, but I am learning, and LOVING the journey.
I am also on a hunt for more resources and blogs and books about being a better wife and marriage. Please share if you have any that you love or if you are associated with any! Much of my blog may become about marriage for awhile because that is what I am trying to focus on right now. But we will see! :)
SyssaB says
So good to hear your heart lady!!
Ann@StringerMama says
Wow! What a step of faith! I know what it’s like to be there and my daughter was in daycare for 3 days when I knew that God wanted me to be a SAHM. It made all of the difference in the world. Good for you striving to become a better mom and wife! Like Esther, I encourage you to read “An Excellent Wife” and “For Women Only” are both books that truly shaped my marriage for the better! :0) Thanks for posting on my facebook page!
the Tattooed cookie says
There is a wonderful book called “Love & Respect” it is truly an amazing book, written with all biblical princaples
the Tattooed cookie says
There is a wonderful book called “Love & Respect” it is truly an amazing book, written with all biblical princaples