I think the important thing is to be intentional about breaking out of the normal routine of life and taking a day/evening to focus on your marriage and your family. Whether that is done at home, or in a deli or in a fancy restaurant. Work to find what works for your family and make whatever that is special!
Here are some extra tips to help make date night happen for you!
Share you meal – Meals in restaurants are usually big enough to share. If you know how to look at a menu and what to order you can usually find a large meal to share anywhere!
Order water – ordering water instead of sodas or alcohol can save a LOT per date. It is a bit of a sacrifice, but it is better than eliminating date night all together!
Earn free gift cards – A few years ago money was TIGHT and I found out about swagbucks. Use the site to earn points by searching the internet, watching videos, playing games and more. They are by far the easiest of these types of sites that I’ve found to use, and you can rack up points to exchange for date night gift cards! There are several restaurants to choose from and it’s definitely doable to earn a gift card every month! Then, you’ll only have to pay the babysitter, because your date will always be free! You start with 150 swagbucks if you sign up for free swagbucks! This is my third year using them and they are still just as easy as they were on day one!
Put it in the budget – Making sure you have the $ for it, and holding that money aside specifically for date night encourages you to find the time to go. Even if it’s just a small date, getting out of the house with the family or your hubby for an evening is such a wonderful thing! Every month I budget $50 for dates. Just $50 for the entire month, but we are able to do it! For 3 of the 4 dates we do cheap places like a pizza buffet or dinner at a local deli (Jason’s Deli is our favorite). At the deli we are able to share a large meal, and the buffet ends up being $5 a person so each time we make it in and out for somewhere between $7-$11, even if we take the baby! We save the rest of our budgeted date money for our once a month fancy date, this time we definitely leave baby with his grandparents and we get all dressed up to go to a nicer restaurant.
Save for nicer dates – If you are in a position where you have to find and pay a sitter date night can be much more expensive, and not at all do-able weekly. But by putting aside $5 or $10 here and there (maybe sacrificing your morning coffee run, or some other little treat during the week) you could save enough for a nice dinner for you and your man AND enough for a babysitter once a month or so.
Swap babysitting – Another option for a babysitter is finding a friend with kids and switching weeks. For example, every first and third Saturday they keep your kids while you and your man have a date. Every second and fourth Saturday you keep theirs and they can go out! This could be a simple way to have “free babysitting” and still get in a date night once or twice a month!
If you have to take babies/toddlers – Look for places that offer free stuff! Either free food for kids under age 3 (most buffets offer that) or free things like corn bread or muffins. If you have small kids this could be a work-able option.
If you have not money to go out, or can’t because of babysitting issues I’ve written another post with fabulous home-date-night ideas. Things that go beyond a movie night on the couch and actually help you connect with your spouse from home! You can make an evening at home with your hubby every bit as special as a night out! It just takes a bit of planning!
What about you? What are you date night obstacles? and how are you/have you over come them? I would love to hear your stories!
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