A few months ago I got a tattoo, not realizing how controversial it would end up being.
While many people supported my choice there have been some who gave me some pushback and many more who just gave an “um…wow” sort of reaction. Not that I can blame my friends/family members. Apparently no one pegged me as a “tattoo sort of girl” and I didn’t tell very many people before I got it. Even those who knew I was going, expected me to go get a small wrist tattoo, and I came home with a large, blue stag that covered by entire forearm. A bit unexpected, but I digress.
When a mom dyes her hair a crazy color, gets piercings or tattoos it seems to be met with some questions about what her kids will think of what she’s doing.
As if tattoos, piercings and hair color have a bad influence on children.
“What kind of example are you setting for your children?”
“What if they think it’s okay to get tattoos now?”
You know what, maybe they will. Maybe they will think tattoos are fine, because they are.
Maybe seeing mommy, one of their favorite people in the entire world, switch up her hair tattoo her body and get some piercings will teach them not to make judgements about a person based on what they look like.
Maybe they’ll learn that a person’s character is more important than how they look. Be it the person’s size, race, hair color or body modifications like tattoos and piercings.
Will I let my kids get tattoos?
No, not while they are kids, it’s a permanent decision and I agree that you should be at least 18 to make it. But piercings and hair colorings? Bring it on.
I want to say yes to the things that don’t matter much, like hair experimentation, so when I say no to things like drugs and alcohol they’ll know it’s for a good reason, and not because mama just doesn’t “get it”.
I want them to have fun and express who they are safely. Maybe my tattoos will teach them that. Maybe they won’t. But they certainly won’t affect them negatively.
So I got a tattoo. I dye my hair. I don’t have piercings but only because I have sensitive skin.
These don’t make me a bad influence. In fact, they don’t really affect my parenting at all.
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