I am currently pregnant with our second baby. and I am absolutely thrilled and excited! I knew in my heart it was time to grow our family a bit more, before we even knew I was pregnant, so when we found out I was beyond thrilled. . .
But I know this is not always the case. Not all mama’s are overjoyed when they get the news that they are pregnant. Some are terrified. Some are not happy. I imagine, angry, frightened and scared are first reactions for many mamas.
And, I think that’s okay. ;)
When my son was only 4 or 5 months old I started having pregnancy symptoms. I’m still not really sure what was going on with my body, but I had literally every symptom in the book and then some. And I was TERRIFIED. I tried to deny it, I tried to avoid it because I was NOT ready for another baby. then of course I felt guilty for not being thrilled. If God was blessing the world with new life, how dare I experience any emotion but pure joy right?
Long story short, I ended up not being pregnant. I got the results back from the dr. the day after I had come to terms with being pregnant again, and was able to thank God for new life, even through my fear of having two so close together. Turned out that I was all worked up “for nothing”… but, thinking back, maybe it wasn’t for nothing after all.
It is hard for moms to confess that they weren’t thrilled when they first discovered they were pregnant. But the truth is, it doesn’t make you any less of a mother. Just because your baby might have been unexpected, does not mean God has not already begun preparing you to be an amazing mama. And no, your baby won’t be scarred for life just because your first reaction to the positive test wasn’t squeals of joy! ;)
The truth is having a baby is a huge thing. There are so many changes coming your way and it can be very intimidating, and it can take a lot of time to get used to the idea (good thing you have 9 months!). I think the important thing is to remember that God is in control, and spend a lot of time praying and asking for His help and wisdom as you embark on the new journey of motherhood. Seeking help and advice from other seasoned mama’s is always a good place to start too. Don’t be afraid to be honest about your feelings, chances are those mama’s have been there too!
*I know for some, motherhood may not be a good option right now. You may be in high school still or have any number of other issues in your life that make you say, “I CANNOT have a baby right now.” If that is the case, I encourage you (again) to pray, and seek God’s wisdom, thank him for the new life, and ask for His guidance in seeking a good adoptive family to raise the baby. If you don’t know how to get started in the adoption process I would encourage you to find a local church and talk to a leader there about your situation and ask them for help!
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