Dear people in Target,
I see you with your judgemental glares, looking over in my direction as if I’m the worst mother to ever have a child.
I see you whispering amongst yourselves while glaring daggers are my (admittedly tantruming) children.
I see you looking at me, thinking I’m too young to have one kid, much less two and coming to all sorts of overly dramatic conclusions in your mind about people not knowing how to be parents anymore.
I see you. But I don’t think you really see me.
You don’t see that the reason my kids are throwing a tantrum is because I have rules about how they should behave on a shopping trip in order to get to walk around the store and not be confined to the cart. I made rules that they broke and now they’re stuck in the cart and they’re not happy about it.
In short, my kids are throwing tantrums, because I’m a good mom.
I’m standing firm in my parenting, I’m enforcing rules and unfortunately dear Target shopper, you are hearing what happens when 2 year olds are disappointed.
I know it’s frustrating that my kids are disrupting your otherwise uneventful shopping trip.
I know it sucks to hear any kid crying, especially when it seems like the mom is doing nothing about it.
But trust me, I’m doing something about it.
I’m not giving in to their tantrums because this is a lesson they must learn.
I’m not sorry for teaching them, for remaining consistent in my parenting and holding fast to the rules.
I am sorry you had to be here to see it, but I think that’s what village parenting is all about. Maybe instead of glares and judgemental glances you could look over and grin at me and say “I’ve totally been there” or “stay strong mama”.
Because we all know it’s not just my kids. Mine aren’t flailing on the floor, they’re not “out of control” as much as I loathe that term. They’re just processing a disappointment, and learning what happens when they break the rules.
Yes, I’m rushing through the store to finish buying what we need through their tears. I’d love to just walk out the door and try again another day, but we actually need food and toilet paper to finish this one and I’m not going to leave my cart full of groceries to spoil and an employee to put away.
I’ll finish up, I’ll grab the essentials, I’ll do my best to shush my children but at the end of the day, I know they’re tantruming because I’m a good mom.
If you are wondering… I wrote this post to clarify why I don’t take my child out of the store as soon as they start crying.
More advice on handling the tantrum years, check out our popular post about how to prevent some tantrums with your kids