Have you seen the viral national news story about a restaurant owner in Maine who screamed in the face of a toddler for whining?
The internet is doing it’s thing and it’s going everywhere right now. The parents of the toddler finally shared their side, and it’s clear that the restaurant owner left quite a bit out of her own tale.
I’m just amazed by this entire thing.
There are so many people supporting the restaurant owner for “calling out” these “bad” parents. . .
But let’s be real a minute. Calling a child “it” and yelling in her face is never an okay option. I don’t care if these are the worst parents in the history of parenting (which, it is clear they are not) it’s not your job to yell at a child.
If she was being disruptive (as kids often are), they you quietly talk it over with the parents. Give them some options, offer to box up their meal, maybe even bring a whisk or something from the kitchen for the child to play with. Not scream at their baby. Not ever.
Sure, the mom probably should’ve had snacks or a toy in her purse to entertain her child or give her a snack while waiting, but I think we’ve all been there. You’re on vacation out of snacks and the toys you normally keep in your purse have long since stopped being entertaining.
I’ll be honest, as a mom of two toddlers, I will be the first to say that they sometimes scream in public. That’s a thing that happens because they are kids, unpredictable and still figuring out how to handle their emotions.
I know that some people think that we should hide our children indoors until they have achieved the ability to be utterly silent, but that’s just not realistic. How can kids learn to behave if they are never given the opportunity to do so? How do they learn about being in public if we hide them away?
When did children become so offensive anyway? As if every coo and cry must be hidden from the public eye. Obviously there are places that children don’t belong and for the most part people don’t take them there. You won’t catch me and my kids at an adult movie or a fancy restaurant, but a diner on a Saturday morning, yeah you might see us there. You also might hear a whimper or two from my baby just as I am prepared to hear some from yours.
If my kids are cranky and can’t be consoled, I walk them outside, that’s my job as a mama and I do it. But sometimes it’s easier and quieter to deal with the tantrum right there where we are. A lot of the time uprooting them from their seat will cause much more of a scene then just fixing the problem at our table. So we do it and it’s no big deal.
I’m really not sure how I would react if a restaurant owner, or any one else, screamed in the face of my kid…but I have a feeling I wouldn’t be as gracious as these parents are being.
What do you think of this story? How would you handle it if a restaurant owner did this to your kid?
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