I grew up working with kids, so I was not expecting motherhood to hold many surprises for me. I was totally wrong. Motherhood has surprised me in more ways that I can count, most especially in the first years. I’m excited to share these surprises with you along with our partner, Dr. Smiths. This post has affiliate links to help you easily find what you need.
I was surprised by:
- How much love my heart could hold – I literally feel like my heart has grown with each child. It’s not that I didn’t love before, or didn’t know how to, it’s just a whole new world and depth of love that comes when you enter motherhood.
- How vulnerable it would make me – I don’t even know how to expound on this. How do you explain a feeling so deep in your soul? If you are a mama, you probably know exactly what I’m talking about.
- How scared I would be – Parenting is one of the hardest, and scariest tasks out there. I remember gazing down at my newborn son, and thinking “I’m responsible for this kid for the rest of my life. It’s kind of frightening when you think about it that way.
- How little sleep I would get – And how I would still manage to survive the day with only a couple hours of sleep. I normally need a lot of sleep, but somehow I survived those sleepless nights. I’m not saying I was the kindest person to be around during that season, but we got through it.
- The amount of patience the tantrums stage would require – Nothing prepares you for tantrums. Nothing.
- How many times I would forget to bathe myself – Gross but true. Every one says personal hygiene flies out the window when you have a newborn, but I was still surprised at how true it was! Apparently it’s not just a joke or an exaggeration!
- How much strangers would annoy me – Have you ever noticed how rude strangers can be? and nosy? I’ve left grocery stores in tears because of the rude things strangers have said to me or about my kids! I even wrote an open letter to all the random strangers that new moms encounter, because they all seem to say the same, annoying things!
- How many tantrums could be thrown in one small 24 hour period – It’s seriously amazing. I can’t even imagine how much mental energy it must take for them to scream that loud for that amount of time. I can’t even handle it.
- That the terrible twos are nothing compared to the craziness that is 18-21 months – Ok seriously, what’s so terrible about two? My kid can communicate now, and he’s even learning to reason a bit! 18 months was kind of AWFUL, but two is quite fun (most days).
- How much I would need encouragement – I am so grateful to have a supportive and encouraging family, and some incredible friends! I would be a nervous wreck of a mama without them!
- How our kids would make me love my hubby even more – and that’s saying something, because he was already one very loved man! But I fall a little more in love every time I hear him tell our daughter she’s beautiful, or when I catch him reading books to our son. It’s absolutely wonderful.
- That no matter how hard I tried, I would not be able to enjoy every minute – Every one says to enjoy every minute, and while there are so many priceless moments, there are also some that I have not enjoyed, and I’ve learned to be okay with that and just enjoy the journey.
- That I can’t be the perfect mama– I really thought I was going to have it all together from the moment I birthed my son. And, well, I didn’t. I’m not the perfect mama, but I’m a loving mama, and my hubby says I’m a good mama too! I’ll take good and loving and leave “perfect” to supermom.
- That I would absolutely HATE breastfeeding (but endure it anyway) – I know that breastfeeding is supposed to be a special bonding time between mama & baby, but I never really felt that. I love my kids, I love snuggling them, but I do not love breastfeeding them. It was purely functional. A free, and healthy way to nourish my kids, and so I endured.
- That pregnancy would be WAY harder than the birth – I was so scared to give birth. I didn’t even want to think about how it would happen or different birthing methods. If there was a way to avoid birth and have the baby teleported out of my body, I would have signed up. Now that I’ve endured two pregnancies and two births (one without any type of medication) I can honestly say, the pregnancy is the hard part. I would endure labor and delivery 5 more times, but I don’t ever want to do pregnancy again.
- That Baby giggles are the sweetest noise in the world
- And that innocent newborn smiles the sweetest sight.
- How many times a day an newborn can spit up
- and how nasty diaper rash can get – okay, seriously, I thought it would be a couple bumps here and there, but it can actually get pretty intense and even warrant a trip to the Dr’s office!
That motherhood would be the hardest, most rewarding, scariest, most beautiful experience of my life!
Since this is a Dr. Smith’s post I did want to give them a shout out and let you know they have some new diaper rash creams that are just hitting the market! I was fortunate to receive a package of these new rash creams, and seriously, I love them! They aren’t sticky and nasty like other diaper rash creams. It was like putting a thick lotion on my baby’s bum and it worked so fast! I will literally never by another brand if I can help it. Most diaper rash creams totally gross me out, so I was pretty thrilled when I got to try these new ones!
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